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There is a reason why M&A deals fail most of the time… It’s hard. M&A is about bridging two different companies who have different values, culture and priorities, into one single company. 

But one of things that can make everything easier, is if you have a good existing relationship with the other party. And this is something that we tackled with our guest Michael Frankel, SVP and managing director at Deloitte and Bruce Bowden, CFO of interactions.

“Relationships with potential targets drives everything from better diligence, better integration, easier negotiations, to a higher likelihood of getting the deal done.” - Michael Frankel

According to our guests, cultivating relationships with potential targets really does help the overall M&A process. However, you can’t just approach anyone you want. You have to identify your potential targets early on. It’s physically impossible to build relationships with every player on the market. You have to narrow it down and get fairly specific on the top 5 to 15 companies that are your most likely targets that are worth investing your time in. The earlier you form this relationship, the better for the deal. 

It is also important to note that the acquirer is not the only one who will benefit from the relationship. It goes both ways. Most of the time, the seller has an affinity with its company. They would want to know what will happen to their employee, to their product, and probably their legacy. Having that relationship will allow the seller to see what kind of person you are and how you will treat their employees. Trust is very important when it comes to selling your business to someone else. 

Relationship with the Right People

The first step in cultivating the relationship, is to identify who the decision maker is. You don’t want to be wasting all your time creating a relationship with someone who doesn’t have a say in the company. And it’s not always just the CEO, there are other key people in the organizations.

For example, you are acquiring a tech company because of a certain product that they have. The person that invented that product is very valuable. You also need to form a relationship with that person to increase your chances of keeping him around.

As part of picking the right people to have relationships with, it is also important to identify who in your organization should be initiating that relationship. The best case scenario is that your business owners/leaders should initiate and form those relationships. This also helps in retaining the management team of the acquired business after the deal, as you already have that relationship and trust between each other. 

“The best deals that I’ve done, those people (business team) brought the deal to me, I didn’t bring it to them. I don't like deals that go from Corp dev to the business. I like deals that come from the business to corporate.” - Bruce Bowden

Do Not Show Off

As you are getting ready to form that relationship, one of the biggest mistakes that you can make is showing off very early, especially on the very first meeting. You need to have a good first impression so you cannot start by strutting your stuff, explaining how good your offer is, showing off about the things that you can do, and throwing numbers around. If you get off on the wrong foot, you might not get another meeting again, and worse, they will never sell you their company. 

You need to research about the person you are approaching so you know what that person's interest or motivators are. This will allow you to have a more fluid conversation and not sound like you are there just because you want to buy their company. Having empathy and treating the conversation as an exploration and human to human interaction is important. Eventually, people will share stories about themselves because people like to talk about themselves. Just sit down and get to know each other. 

Falling in Love

Falling in love in the dating process might be a bad idea. Sometimes, we get too attached to a potential seller that we lose track of the fact that another competitor is already eclipsing them in the market. You self perpetuate the idea that they must be the right target because you have invested so much time in them. So it’s very important to keep an unbiased view of the potential target. 

In the end, not every relationship that you form will translate into a successful deal. In fact, most of them won’t. However, having that kind of relationship with potential targets will increase your chance of deal success. It also provides better diligence to the target company so you will be able to avoid blind spots and bad deals. 


Overall, relationships with deal targets will help you in any imaginable way. The longer the relationship is, the better for the deal. Just make sure that you avoid the pitfalls discussed above and you will have a better chance of getting the deal done. 

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